Women Who Abuse Men…

Abusive WomanI was privileged to experience my young adult daughter dating a true man of God a couple of years ago.  This young man (We’ll call him Brad) was a wonderful devout young man who did not sacrifice his faith with compromise. Brad created a suitor standard whom my daughter will hold all potential suitors to.  Although it didn’t work out for them, I knew Brad had a positive impact on my daughter and me.

Last year after a while had gone by that my daughter hadn’t spoken with this Godly young man, she  texted Brad to say hello and see how he was doing.  She was shocked to receive a vile text message back, calling her a whore among other obscenities, telling her to never contact him again as he didn’t want anything to do with her and her ‘skanky’ self (paraphrasing). She was aghast at the tone of the text, it did not sound like Brad at all.  Sometime later she received another text from Brad; this time an apology.  It turns out Brad had a new girlfriend who wrote the terrible text back and he apologized for her conduct. [Read more…]


Valentine’s Day Flashback

broken_heartToday I had a flashback…not about Badguy but rather my son’s dad. We were married for just over a year, I had my little man who was 3 months old at the time & it was valentines day 07. I made my ex a lovely card with a picture of him and our son on it thanking him for being a good daddy. We were strapped for cash so I wasn’t expecting much, maybe just a sentiment on a card…after all I just gave birth to his son and devoted myself to our family :). After I gave him the V-day card, he said he chose not to give me one…no apologies only that he didn’t think I was happy with him (I wasn’t…see below). So he chose to punish me.

This actually came back to me pretty hard today and brought a tear to my eye, with which I then praised God for that hurt, that moment and for the ex…that He has brought me out of it and that it happened to teach me what I settled for. [Read more…]


Anger and Control

An abuser is not an abuser because he has chronic anger – he has chronic anger because he is an abuser. Abusers do not “lose control” in anger when they abuse others – they use anger to maintain control and continue their abuse.

~ Mel Stewart


Emotional Abuse IS Domestic Violence

verbal abuseWhen people think of domestic abuse, they often picture battered women who have been physically assaulted. But not all abusive relationships involve violence. Just because you’re not battered and bruised doesn’t mean you’re not being abused. Many men and women suffer from emotional abuse, which is no less destructive. Unfortunately, emotional abuse is often minimized or overlooked—even by the person being abused.

But not all abusive relationships involve violence. [Read more…]


Remember Who You Were Before…

Think about how picky your partner was about what he could or couldn’t be associated with… his first glimpse of you, his first ideal of you was idealized, but MUCH closer to reality than his complete devaluation of you by the end… [Read more…]