Loving After Abuse

Excerpt from “Loving Fairly After Abuse

Survivors of abusive relationships need to find ways to help themselves progress down the path of healing. In addition to professional counseling there are many resources available to those who need some help and direction down the road ahead. There are self help books, online forums, survivor groups and church organizations. Use your personal support system of friends and family to help you maintain a positive outlook. [Read more…]


Valentine’s Day Flashback

broken_heartToday I had a flashback…not about Badguy but rather my son’s dad. We were married for just over a year, I had my little man who was 3 months old at the time & it was valentines day 07. I made my ex a lovely card with a picture of him and our son on it thanking him for being a good daddy. We were strapped for cash so I wasn’t expecting much, maybe just a sentiment on a card…after all I just gave birth to his son and devoted myself to our family :). After I gave him the V-day card, he said he chose not to give me one…no apologies only that he didn’t think I was happy with him (I wasn’t…see below). So he chose to punish me.

This actually came back to me pretty hard today and brought a tear to my eye, with which I then praised God for that hurt, that moment and for the ex…that He has brought me out of it and that it happened to teach me what I settled for. [Read more…]


Stop the Pattern

My dear friend Phyllis reminds me of a very valid point for a lot of women coming out of abusive relationships. More than likely the abusive relationship you just left isn’t the only one you’ve been in. We are prone to attract the same type of men again, we are apt to jump into another relationship quickly to ‘heal’ the hurt from the previous one. [Read more…]