My Story: Prequel

Abuse and violence started very early in my life.  Both my mother and father were very unhealthy and didn’t know how to parent. They were controlled by their emotions and human weakness. My mother was verbally abusive, emotionally demeaning and mentally cruel from the time I was a small child. From the age of 3 I remember being assaulted by my father.  I endured physical abuse, emotional and mental abuse, humiliation and degredation.   I left home by the age of 17.

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2 Years of FREEDOM

2 Years of Freedom Survivor of Domestic Violence

July 29th 2011, I escaped from the abuser.

As I reflect on what these last few days represent I am taken aback at the incredible journey God has brought me through.

When I was looking back at pictures from my blackberry from directly before and during that time of complete bondage and entrapment,I see a woman who was at the end of herself. [Read more…]


Romance with Jesus!

“She didn’t carry herself with a seductive, flirtatious air that guys always seemed to respond to. She didn’t dress to show off her figure. In fact, she didn’t pursue guys at all. She was far too busy living out a passionate romance with Jesus Christ to be pining after an earthly prince.
Quote from The Set Apart Girl’s Guide to Feminine Grace by Leslie Ludy



Valentine’s Day Flashback

broken_heartToday I had a flashback…not about Badguy but rather my son’s dad. We were married for just over a year, I had my little man who was 3 months old at the time & it was valentines day 07. I made my ex a lovely card with a picture of him and our son on it thanking him for being a good daddy. We were strapped for cash so I wasn’t expecting much, maybe just a sentiment on a card…after all I just gave birth to his son and devoted myself to our family :). After I gave him the V-day card, he said he chose not to give me one…no apologies only that he didn’t think I was happy with him (I wasn’t…see below). So he chose to punish me.

This actually came back to me pretty hard today and brought a tear to my eye, with which I then praised God for that hurt, that moment and for the ex…that He has brought me out of it and that it happened to teach me what I settled for. [Read more…]


No Contact…

Every time you subject yourself to an abusive person-you allow them to suck the life out of you. NO CONTACT is the only ‘relationship’ you should have with them.

~ Anita-LDNH


Believe and Be Satisfied…

believe and be satisfied


I Am A Miracle Of His Creation

Today I celebrate MeToday I am loving ME and the miracle of my uniqueness.

My talents, my weaknesses, my strengths, my feelings, my opinions, my femininity.

My role as a mother, sister and daughter of God.

Though I know I fail daily – He Never fails me and NEVER stops loving me.

I am the miracle of His Creation.

© Love Does No Harm


Life Is So Full…

Life is so full, so promising, so wonderful…even with it’s ups and downs. At least they are MY ups and downs and I’m NO LONGER being manipulated by the abuser’s constant put-downs, head-games and lies. God is holding my hand through the trying times, ministering to me Wisdom and peace. Those difficult times are MINUSCULE in comparison to the hell I was in.


Survive & Thrive

Settled in. Looking around at our new home. It’s almost surreal.

I remember when I tried to leave BadGuy he’d say “Your 47 years old, what are you going to do, stay with friends and rely on them?”

YES! I did rely on the grace of others from July 29th 2011 to Nov. 21 2011. I was humbled to have to do so, but LOOK AT ME NOW!

The lies of the enemy are filled with deceit. WE CAN SURVIVE & THRIVE!!!! Love and prayers to all of you-you bless my heart EVERY day.


…To Give You A Hope And A Future…

Jeremiah 29:11-12
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.”