Cycle of Violence

Cycle of describes The Cycle of Abuse like this:

  1. An initial abusive incident occurs (can be sexual, physical, or emotional)
  2. Tension builds, with the abuser trying to quell their violent tendency and the abusee trying to “keep the peace” until, finally, another incident happens
  3. Make-up: the abuser apologizes, often promising never to do it again or, conversely, trying to shed blame by saying that the victim “asked for it” or is “making a big deal out of nothing”
  4. Calm: both parties act as if nothing is wrong, and do their best to ignore the mounting problem