Women Who Abuse Men…

Abusive WomanI was privileged to experience my young adult daughter dating a true man of God a couple of years ago.  This young man (We’ll call him Brad) was a wonderful devout young man who did not sacrifice his faith with compromise. Brad created a suitor standard whom my daughter will hold all potential suitors to.  Although it didn’t work out for them, I knew Brad had a positive impact on my daughter and me.

Last year after a while had gone by that my daughter hadn’t spoken with this Godly young man, she  texted Brad to say hello and see how he was doing.  She was shocked to receive a vile text message back, calling her a whore among other obscenities, telling her to never contact him again as he didn’t want anything to do with her and her ‘skanky’ self (paraphrasing). She was aghast at the tone of the text, it did not sound like Brad at all.  Sometime later she received another text from Brad; this time an apology.  It turns out Brad had a new girlfriend who wrote the terrible text back and he apologized for her conduct. [Read more…]


Valentine’s Day Flashback

broken_heartToday I had a flashback…not about Badguy but rather my son’s dad. We were married for just over a year, I had my little man who was 3 months old at the time & it was valentines day 07. I made my ex a lovely card with a picture of him and our son on it thanking him for being a good daddy. We were strapped for cash so I wasn’t expecting much, maybe just a sentiment on a card…after all I just gave birth to his son and devoted myself to our family :). After I gave him the V-day card, he said he chose not to give me one…no apologies only that he didn’t think I was happy with him (I wasn’t…see below). So he chose to punish me.

This actually came back to me pretty hard today and brought a tear to my eye, with which I then praised God for that hurt, that moment and for the ex…that He has brought me out of it and that it happened to teach me what I settled for. [Read more…]


Cycle of Violence

Cycle of ViolenceDomesticviolence.org describes The Cycle of Abuse like this:

  1. An initial abusive incident occurs (can be sexual, physical, or emotional)
  2. Tension builds, with the abuser trying to quell their violent tendency and the abusee trying to “keep the peace” until, finally, another incident happens [Read more…]

I Have God

domestic violence survivor

I have been ridiculed
I have been harmed
I have been taunted
I have been abused
I have endured
I have woken up
I have escaped
I have survived
I have been blessed
I have God

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