Women Who Abuse Men…

Abusive WomanI was privileged to experience my young adult daughter dating a true man of God a couple of years ago.  This young man (We’ll call him Brad) was a wonderful devout young man who did not sacrifice his faith with compromise. Brad created a suitor standard whom my daughter will hold all potential suitors to.  Although it didn’t work out for them, I knew Brad had a positive impact on my daughter and me.

Last year after a while had gone by that my daughter hadn’t spoken with this Godly young man, she  texted Brad to say hello and see how he was doing.  She was shocked to receive a vile text message back, calling her a whore among other obscenities, telling her to never contact him again as he didn’t want anything to do with her and her ‘skanky’ self (paraphrasing). She was aghast at the tone of the text, it did not sound like Brad at all.  Sometime later she received another text from Brad; this time an apology.  It turns out Brad had a new girlfriend who wrote the terrible text back and he apologized for her conduct.

Fast forward to a couple of days ago. My daughter tells me one of Brad’s friends messaged her to say hi.  This friend grew up with Brad, they were best buddies.  When my daughter inquired about Brad and asked how he was doing, he said he didn’t know, Brad had ‘moved in’ with his girlfriend and the friend hadn’t talked to him in months because her influence on him.  My daughter also alerted me to the fact that Brad’s sister had posted a note about not having seen Brad for months…highly unusual.   Brad is the eldest of  nine, his father a Greek Orthodox Priest, they were a very tight knit family.

It was so evident to me. This Godly young man had fallen victim to domestic abuse…it wreaked all over the place…isolation, control, manipulation.   I told my daughter I HAD to message him, to let him know there is a way out, that control and manipulation are not love. She felt like she shouldn’t interfere and wouldn’t give me his number willingly so I snuck onto her phone and got it, I HAD to.  My text message to him:

Hi Brad-

I am writing as Gods broken messenger, I pray these words are His. You kno I went through a season of abuse, manipulation & control from someone who said they loved me. My being & life became a shadow of His perfect purpose for me. Control & manipulation r of the enemy & the flesh-it is never love. Plz know its never too late to turn around. God didn’t give up on me & His perfect purpose is being fulfilled & JOY abounds. I was made aware that ur family & friends haven’t heard from u. I kno this text will be examined by the one who says she loves u. I snuck ur ph# from my daughters phone to send this to u out of love and concern for u & appreciation for the Godly influence u had on my child.  U R loved, u deserve respect without control & isolation.

Be well Brad-U R an amazing man of God. ~Anita

Just reading over this right now brings tears to my eyes.  I feel awful for him.  Of course there was no response to my text…but that’s okay.

My daughter, Brad’s family and friends are in dismay at what has happened to this young man whose aspirations of becoming a neurosurgeon and navy seal are now on hold…all because of a controlling, manipulative, abusive woman who is proclaiming her love for him.

PRAISE GOD through Christ Brad can come out of this wiser and with an understanding of why he had to go on this path.  Please keep him in prayer and also use this as knowledge that MEN FALL PREY to abuse.

Blessings ~Anita